On a car ride back from a busy holiday celebration on the east coast I listened to Lady Gaga talk about her mental health. She kept referring to the hope she has each day that the emotions will eventually change, and how the trauma shows up physically in her body. She sees a psychologist every […]


December 27, 2019

Change your story, change your life

This morning I talked to my old therapist on the phone about a jarring email I received from a distressed follower yesterday. I haven’t seen my therapist in at least six months which for me is like, exceptional growth. Not because I don’t love therapy, I’ve got three numbers for you now if you are […]


December 10, 2019

Ain’t nobody gonna stop you

I was sitting in a pew anticipating a wonderful performance from a women’s choir. It had been a while since I sat in a pew—I used to do it every single day growing up and let’s just say, it was a lot. So, I’ve replaced hard church pews with muddy paths surrounded by trees and […]


November 28, 2019

How to Manage the Grief of Change

Six strategy calls, one week. The verdict is in: Women everywhere are moonlighting as professional jugglers. I’ve been working with women for awhile now, I have hundreds of hours of personal data on what we are truly up against. And while you know I am busy creating solutions to change the external systems that are […]


November 20, 2019

Is Your Desire to be Dependable Actually Getting In Your Way?

Every great idea died on this sentence: I just don’t know where to start. I can name one million times that I have started something for the first time. It began when I took my first step as a child, or when I ate my first real piece of food. Right? All of us are […]


October 22, 2019

How to start when you don’t know where to start

This past week I’ve been reflecting on a lot of my failures. There was that time I bought the most amazing grey blazer and new sneakers, flew to LA to pitch a show to Netflix. Great meeting in the room, so much chatting and fun, and then a big fat no thank you from the […]


September 5, 2019

Can you really do this?

At a fundraising dinner this week I sat at a table full of powerful women. They’re leading organizations, running departments at big banks, managing large teams and going after their dreams. We were there to raise money for the Finish Line Foundation and listen to two-time Olympian Carli Lloyd talk about, well, being an Olympian. […]


August 27, 2019

The Adequacy Gap is Costing You

This past Sunday I was in a working session with a client designing a pitch and proposal.  We had worked this out in her mind but were finally putting thoughts to paper. I asked her how she was feeling, the pitch was happening in two days and she was going up in front of a […]


July 16, 2019

Growth Mindset: How to Build the Endurance You Need to Succeed

I met a friend yesterday for a short little catch up and chat. We sat on a beautiful porch looking out at the city and shared with each other our plans and holiday stories. I began telling her about this concept I learned recently of being on the “defense”. The concept is that any time […]


July 8, 2019

Allow or Defend: The Choice is Yours

When I was growing up my parents would tell me that it was really important that I trusted my instincts. “Learn to trust your instincts,” they would say when I came to them to solve a problem. Or even better, “What do you think?” they would ask when I wanted guidance. Contextually I think my […]


July 1, 2019

Fear vs. Instincts: How To Know When To Trust Yourself

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